Why Are You In Pain?

A Journey Beyond Symptom Management

Why Are You In Pain?

The Beginning Point of Pain

Where It Starts

Everything starts with our spirit. In the dynasty of mankind that was the first part created. The first requirement to submit occurred here. It was resistance that created the first point of pain.

Gen 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

If we split this up by the commas, you can see the distinction. Here, the words, “in his own image” is a reference to the creation of the spiritual man from within the spirit of God, Himself.

God is a Spirit. He created our spirit within His Spirit. Our spirits (male and female) were created with equal authority inside the mind of God.

We were a thought in the mind of God. Thoughts are the beginning point of creation. If it manifests in the form of a dream conceived, a goal realized, or the manifestation of a point of pain in one’s body, our thoughts are what we submit to.

The Purpose in the Beginning

Gen 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

Here, the words “in the image of God,” is a reference to the “likeness” of God. It means that He created us to look like Him, as opposed to resembling an animal, or some other creature.

Create—verb (used with object), cre•at•ed, cre•at•ing.
1. to cause to come into being, as something unique that would not naturally evolve or that is not made by ordinary processes.
2. to evolve from one’s own thought or imagination, as a work of art or an invention.
3. Theater. to perform (a role) for the first time or in the first production of a play.
4. to make by investing with new rank or by designating; constitute; appoint: to create a peer.
5. to be the cause or occasion of; give rise to: The announcement created confusion.
6. to cause to happen; bring about; arrange, as by intention or design: to create a revolution; to create an opportunity to ask for a raise.

In His own likeness, “created he him,” or He created him; him being mankind, and inclusive of females as the semi-colon and subsequent line indicates. He created “them” with equal authority. The intention was for them to rule the earth jointly.

The Connection

The issue of joint rule has not been widely accepted. It’s always been a power struggle and point of pain. It is a subjugation issue based on how we (mankind) have been thinking. There is a distinct difference between subjugation and submission.

verb (used with object), sub·mit·ted, sub·mit·ting.
1. to give over or yield to the power or authority of another (often used reflexively).
2. to subject to some kind of treatment or influence.
3. to present for the approval, consideration, or decision of another or others: to submit a plan; to submit an application.
4. to state or urge with deference;  suggest or propose (usually followed by a clause): I submit that full proof should be required.

verb (used without object), sub·mit·ted, sub·mit·ting.
1. to yield oneself to the power or authority of another: to submit to a conqueror.
2. to allow oneself to be subjected to some kind of treatment: to submit to chemotherapy.

the act, fact, or process of subjugating, or bringing under control; enslavement: The subjugation of the American Indians happened across the country.

verb (used with object), sub·ju·gat·ed, sub·ju·gat·ing.
1. to bring under complete control or subjection; conquer; master.
2. to make submissive or subservient; enslave.

The Correlation

Here’s the correlation. How we think is directly linked to our pain manifestations. Our thoughts dictate our behavior. We act how we think, and our actions can manifest a point of pain.

The question becomes, “Who’s governing your thoughts?” Who or what influences you? Whatever or whoever influences you is your master and in this age of technology and social branding, there are many “influences” out there that people are submitting to.

Submission choices cause some people to suffer from a point of pain. They choose to submit to the wrong things. The result of these wrong choices caused them to become subjugated by those same things or people.

The key to the real sources of pain; is to find these various influences, and subvert their direct effect on our thought life. Don’t allow anyone to direct your thinking with labels. Labels only have meaning if you give them meaning.

It’s all in what you believe. This is why the position that some non-Christian people take, stating that Christianity is for weak-minded, wimpy people is a complete fallacy.

To Thine Own Self Be True

To remain true to your beliefs, even in the face of social or cultural opposition, or even government opposition and threats, is not the position of a weak-minded, wimpy person.

Everyone is influenced by someone or something. Some are too easily influenced by everything; whether it’s the current social culture, politics, brands, celebrities; or by the most significant person to ever exist – Jesus Christ.

Whoever, or whatever influences you is who or what you have submitted to. Allowing something or someone to influence you is a decision to willingly follow that thing or that person.

Depending on the theology of the influence will dictate if you will experience a point of pain. Does the theology or influence violate any natural laws or principles?

The culture is to submit to Social Media
The culture demands we submit to social media.

It is not easy to submit to anyone. It’s not easy to submit to rules. Submission is the choice to put your own desires aside in favor of and in consideration of another’s.

The Choice Is Yours

I choose to be a willing, knowledgeable participant with a choice. I refuse to be enslaved; subjugated to any foreign or unknown influence.

This is why the first of The 7 Causes of Pain lies in your Thoughts and Decisions. How’s that you ask? We all make choices. Some of those choices affect our spirit, mind, and body. Choices direct our paths, and those decisions direct the measure of stressors we encounter along the way.

We make the choice to listen to sound reasoning or beneficial instruction. Likewise, we decide to take sound advice or take a risk.

The Pain Connection

To find and understand the catalysts for suffering; one must view the situation from a Natural, Holistic viewpoint.

From a Holistic perspective, the entire person and their personhood must be included. The Holistic viewpoint does not separate. It brings together.

The Problem of Disconnection

There is no division, like in Western Medicine. Western Medicine splits the internal relationships and severs them. Their approach to the physical body is divide and conquer. In Western Medicine, there is no causal relationship between one body part and another. Just as no man is an island, no part of our personhood or bodies is either.

Considering all of this, and considering that my approach is Holistic; I have to examine all facets of personhood. They are infinitely linked, so I will be approaching every bit of information I provide as content; based upon a Spirit, Mind (Soul), or Body perspective.

It’s Not Easy To Submit.

In examining the spiritual aspect, I began thinking about The 7 Deadly Sins. Thoughts and Decisions we make have a direct bearing on pain in the body. An activated Spirit governs the mind, I decided to explore the connections.

Regulation of the mind and body doesn’t mean that everyone has activated their spirit. Claims of being “spiritual” is not a real indicator of spiritual activation.

Gen 1:28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

Who Governs You?

If your thoughts are not governed by a strong active spirit, they will be regulated in the realm of the soul (the mind), the seat of desires. Lack of self-control and discipline is a major factor in the manifestation and continuation of pain.

The question of your healing or the proper management of your pain condition rests upon your perspective. Who governs your thoughts and decisions? Is it an activated spirit, or the base desires of your soul? And how do The 7 Deadly Sins play into this whole picture of pain?

Battling With The Monster Depression

The monster Depression

The Very Frustrating, Teary-eyed,
Not Particularly Horrible Day

It hasn’t been a particularly good day. Not a horrible day, but not a good day either. As I write this, I’m wiping tears from my eyes. This is truly a rare occasion.  The monster Depression rarely hits me.

It takes quite a while, and quite a bit a frustration for me to feel like this. Usually, just like now, it isn’t any one particular thing. It’s just the culmination of things.

I am usually a pretty happy person. I’m always trying to be positive, and I don’t stay focused on negatives. I’m constantly trying to encourage myself to do better.

The Monster Depression Attacks

So the once in a blue moon that the monster Depression hits me, I do everything I can to just keep going. I try to ignore the feeling or talk myself through it like I’m talking some sense into myself.

That worked for a little while earlier today. I managed to talk myself out of feeling totally hopeless. Fear keeps trying to attack me for what, in reality, are small issues.

And there are many of these that have built themselves into the monster Depression and have been trying to attack me for months. They have been slowly eating away at me in random thoughts throughout the day.

I’m feeling stuck. The thing about being stuck is that if you cannot get unstuck, it can result in pain; both mental and physical over time. It’s the same battle as before.

I actually smiled just now, realizing this. The enemy’s attacks are always the same. It’s either lust of the eyes, the lust of the flesh or the pride of life. I think my issue is the pride of life. Not that I have anything to have pride over, mind you.

Creation Frustration

My bout with the monster Depression has more to do with the mark I want to leave. It’s about creation frustration. I wonder if God experienced that?

I’m sure he wasn’t happy, after creating a world; this universe for us, and then having to suffer the insult of an uprising. I know God was far above all of that activity and the archangel Michael handled it and kicked Lucifer out of the heavens.

Isa 14:12 How art thou fallen from heaven, O Lucifer, son of the morning! how art thou cut down to the ground, which didst weaken the nations!Isa 14:13 For thou hast said in thine heart, I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God: I will sit also upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north:
Isa 14:14 I will ascend above the heights of the clouds; I will be like the most High.
Isa 14:15 Yet thou shalt be brought down to hell, to the sides of the pit.

But, having insult turn to injury as Lucifer hit the earth like a comet, and caused it to become dark and devoid of life, must have been at least slightly annoying, in my mind. After all, God creates in light, and with life; so I know the darkness and void condition came after the original creation.

A Blotch On Perfection?

If God had the mind of men (or someone like me), I’m sure he would have been a little miffed with having to redo everything He had so brilliantly thought up and laid out. The design of the universe(s) had a blemish. There was a blotch on the map of perfection He had created. It had to be fixed; in fact, it was crucial. That was the planet planned for the birth of mankind.

But, I’m sure that God, being God, anticipated all of this. The ultimate planner. He knew about the iniquity in Lucifer long before the name change to Satan became necessary. God plans for every contingency; unlike us. But, that is the advantage of being Almighty.


Realizing this takes me back to my initial frustration. It is always issues over time. The monster of Depression usually starts looming when I get focused on time issues.

I get frustrated because I feel like I’m moving in slow motion and not making enough progress in my own creation focus. I feel like time is slipping away from me, and I don’t want to leave this realm without leaving a legacy.

Having setbacks that cause me to have to redo several weeks of work adds to my time-related issues. This is usually what brings the monster of Depression, because I feel like a car stuck in the mud, with my wheels turning, but going nowhere.

Perhaps I’m just feeling my age. The specter of mortality is closer now. This morning I was contemplating how many people don’t have any thought about tomorrow, let alone about their impending escape from this dimension. No one wants to think about leaving this life.

Finishing The Race

I don’t think my problem is losing it. My issue is finishing my race well. I want to know that I completed my purpose. That I succeeded in what God intended when He placed me here. I want to know that I was able to help a lot of people.

Despite the rise of the monster of Depression, I’m fully cognizant that my frustration is temporary. I will succeed with the purpose God gave me, and that is to help all of you. I can’t stop. Quitting is not an option, no matter what the setbacks are.

I haven’t been able to work on my goals and the main focus of my passion for almost all of last week. There were too many other issues I had to deal with. That’s why I was frustrated. I feel like time is precious, and I wasn’t able to utilize it the way I wanted.

I know that I will push forward because I have to. I’m not weak; just having a moment. Besides, God doesn’t give assignments to his servants that can’t be fulfilled and brought to fruition. I believe God. That’s completely different from believing God exists or believing in God. Believing God puts you on a whole other level.

Having A Moment

That’s why I’m only having a moment. I know who my provider is. I’m confident I can trust in Him. I know who has the whole world in His hands; especially, my whole world. This is why the monster of Depression can’t hold me down for long.

The only escape from that monster Depression is knowing without any doubt, that God’s got you. Having that level of faith means that you understand that God will take care of you. He will provide for you. You have to know your Source.

My pastor saw an entire loaf of bread sitting on the highway. If God would provide an entire loaf of bread for the birds, why would any of us have to worry about him providing for us? Do you believe God? Do you believe his word entirely? That is what restores one’s faith and shrinks the monster of Depression.

The 7 R’s Of Restoration

Security is found in responsibility

There are many people worldwide that suffer from some form of pain. Most people spend so much time wading in the shallow end of the pool of thought life; that they don’t realize that what they are perceiving as pain is only a physical manifestation of a hidden and perhaps greater problem – a lack of responsibility towards the self.

In other words, being in tune with yourself; paying attention to your body and it signals, and just being attentive overall, is a primary first step towards regaining your life and freedom from pain. So what are the 7 R’s?


Before I can actually share what these 7 Responsibilities are, we have to define this. Now, I realize that most people think that they know or understand what being responsible means. I did too.

However, there are people that think that Responsibility is only about “fault” or “blame.” That is why so many people run from responsibility. So to clarify this, here are the definitions from dictionary.com.

  1. the state or fact of being responsible, answerable, or accountable for something within one’s power, control, or management.
  2. an instance of being responsible: The responsibility for this mess is yours!
  3. a particular burden of obligation upon one who is responsible: The responsibilities of authority.
  4. a person or thing for which one is responsible: A child is a responsibility to its parents.
  5. reliability or dependability, especially in meeting debts or payments.

As you can see, number 2 demonstrates “blame,” which is often how this word is utilized, but note that it is referenced as only “an instance.” Number 3 and 4 demonstrate more of an ongoing “burden.” This is the reason most people run from leadership. They don’t understand the principles of service. They only see responsibility.

These three numbers, 2-4 are the main reason why people often avoid responsibility; because they think that life just happens and what they experience, including pain, is outside of their control.

The Difference

However, clearly, both the beginning definition, number 1, and the ending definition, number 5, tell a different story. What’s funny about this, is that it is just like the pattern of most things in life.

You start out with a goal that is well-defined; and with good intentions. And then somewhere on the road towards that great intentioned end goal, you run into trouble. Just like with any situation or circumstance in life; if you do not maintain your focus, pay attention, push through – and stay the course; then you will stay stuck in the middle and never reach that great end goal.

In other words, numbers 1 and 5 in that definition requires you to take control. The mess in the middle happens when you give your power away and play the victim. Responsibility is required to be restored. You have to stay the course, keep your focus, and don’t give up, sometimes in the face of incredible odds.

Here are the 7 Responsibilities that will help you become fully Restored.


No matter what it is you are facing, your first step in breaking free and regaining control over your life or the situation is in recognition. You must be able to see and fully understand who you are, where you are, what the problem is, why it is a problem and how it is happening or manifesting in your life (what is causing it).

Sometimes this means that you can only trust in yourself to find solutions. It also means you have to do some research for yourself to find real answers. Sometimes your solution lies beyond the boundaries of standard reasoning, procedures or treatments and processes.

This means that you have a responsibility towards yourself first. You have to be willing to look outside of conventional norms and answers that are only symptomatic in nature. You may have to do some serious introspection and look within.

Assessment and Acknowledgement

People who say, “Why is this always happening to me?” have failed to fully assess their problems, their lives, and their decisions; and most likely, are not truly seeking answers. This is because they have no understanding of “The Mirror Theory.”

This has to do with your belief systems. People who believe that they are bound to inherit something that has been genetically inherent in their family, have already been defeated by their own thought processes because they don’t recognize the power of a changed mind.

Within Your Grasp

This is why I love that first definition because it states: the fact of being responsible, answerable, or accountable for something within one’s power, control, or management.

You aren’t responsible for everyone else’s problems and issues. You are only responsible for yourself. Your current condition or circumstance does not detract from your ability to regain control, because the power has been within you all along. It has grown weak only because you have not recognized nor exercised it.

Recognize your responsibility to yourself, and take your power back.


Most people get severely stuck on this word. They throw up a wall whenever they hear it because unfortunately, there has been and still is a faction within the body of the “church” who has no true understanding of the call of Christ to love.

There are some in church circles who have used that word to beat people over the head, and try to aggressively convince them into complying with scripture. So I understand if that word causes a red flag moment for anyone.

However, this is why I like to put definitions into what I write, because I want to make sure that all of you fully understand my meaning. I like to be as clear as possible to avoid confusion. So let’s look at this word too.

  1. to feel sorry, self-reproachful, or contrite for past conduct; regret or be conscience-stricken about a past action, attitude, etc. (often followed by of): He repented after his thoughtless act.
  2. to feel such sorrow for sin or fault as to be disposed to change one’s life for the better; be penitent.
  3. to remember or regard with self-reproach or contrition: to repent one’s injustice to another.
  4. to feel sorry for; regret: to repent an imprudent act.

A Simple Decision

In other words, repent means to change your mind. It means that you have realize that perhaps your past thinking and/or actions based on your previous thought patterns were wrong, or hurtful. You regret any hurt you may have caused and have made a decision to change your thoughts and behavior. Simple, right?

It’s only logical that once you have recognized the error of your past decisions and thoughts, you would want to repent (change your mindset and free it) of those types of thoughts and decisions that may be hurtful to yourself or someone else.

So despite what you may have previously thought, repentance is a power move, because first, it is an expression of regret for something you have come to recognize as being wrong in your thoughts or life. Secondly, it is the pivotal point of change, and change is powerful.


Once you’ve broken free of the old pattern of thinking, you have to renew your mind. You must retrain it. There are many great books out there to help you with self-growth, including the Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth (Bible). There’s a very well-known scripture on Blueletterbible.org that talks about this process.

Rom 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

In other words, don’t get caught up in the distractions of the culture. Renew your mind by feeding both it and your spirit with quality, positive thoughts, and information; so that your life reflects the perfect will of God. Did you know that we were all ordained with dominion – to walk as kings and queens on the earth? Royalty bears responsibility.

What Are You Seeking?

If you do not seek wisdom and understanding; if you are not trying to reach beyond what and who you are in this current moment, you are stagnant. To be stagnant is to be useless and non-functioning. Lack of function causes pain.

It’s time to redirect your path and your life. It’s not over. You’re still breathing. You’re still here. You’re still alive. Life doesn’t have to be merely existing. I know you’ve suffered losses, but it’s not too late. Renew your mind.



Once you have recognized the error of your thoughts, habits, or decisions; repented of them, and renewed your mind; then you must act accordingly. Practice what your new mindset is preaching.

In other words, doing something once does not prove change. That’s merely a reaction. We aren’t here to just react to whatever life throws at us, because reactions are based on the unexpected; and we are trying to chart our course and direct our paths.


A response is an action based on significant thought or reflection. Your decisions, behaviors, and habits must be ongoing and consistent in order to truly reflect the change in you and the outcome you seek.

You must not grow weary of doing what is right. Use the power of renewal to strengthen and encourage yourself.

Pro 3:11 My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction:

Isa 40:31 But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

When you start responding to the changes brought about by the renewing of your mind, you are positioning yourself, and blessings will be heading your way. Answers to that which you’ve been seeking will start to unfold in ways in never expected, and a paradigm shift occurs.


Likewise, unexpected chaos is a result of inconsistency and a weariness mindset of defeat, and many people miss their blessings because of this. You have to press on and move forward.

Is everything always going to be smooth sailing? No. There will be times of discomfort, but that is a requirement of the struggle and drive needed to solve the problem.

People have gotten too comfortable; so much so that they lack the wherewithal to fight the good fight and win for their own sake. It is the unfortunate curse of this generation because people have gotten so lazy due to a continual drive towards comfort.

While you are in your comfort zone of “I’ve grown accustomed to this,” or I can’t be bothered, (to make any real effort); the problem you complain about will remain. You have to step outside of your comfort to realize a real change.

Convenience is a curse. It is the bane of this age and culture.

As Barry White said, “Too much of anything is not good for you, baby.”

Convenience causes pain.

However, if you are willing to be inconvenienced on your own behalf, you can regain control over your life, because you are open to receive.


This has been a topic of study at my church; reclaiming what was lost. Getting the life you love. Recommitment to service. Reclaiming your peace. Regaining your strength. Reclaiming deliverance from pain.

You can only reclaim what you want if you have recognized what you lack, why you lack it, how you got into the mindset of lack, who you really are and where you should be; and have repented of your old, “lackluster” mindset. By renewing your mind and responding in your habits accordingly, you then position yourself to receive, and are able to reclaim the life you want; pain free and happy.

So what is left? I did say 7, didn’t I?


So why after all that, would I tell you to remember? What is it that you must remember?

First, and most importantly, you must remember where you came from, because it is not about the end goal, but the journey to get there. So you must keep record of your journey and the milestones of it, and share it with others to encourage them along the same path of change.

Keep a journal or start a blog as a means to testify about how you overcame your struggles and made it through to whatever it is that quantifies as happiness for you.

Consequently I’ve created this entire Cross of Pain network to help you understand pain at as many levels and perspectives as possible. I want to help you to understand and know the most natural options so that you can respond and attack pain the right way and totally conquer it.

My goal is to make this a point of reference that will help you to get the best and most natural results. Thank you for joining me and remember to subscribe.

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