We want everyone to feel at home posting comments on Cross Of Pain. We don’t know what your home is like, but we know how we expect people to behave when they visit ours. That’s why we reserve the right to delete comments and ban users as needed to keep the comment threads here civil and substantive.
Our No. 1 house rule is simple: Don’t be a jerk.
Be the kind of commenter we’d love to bring home for the holidays? Here’s what we like to see in comments:
- Weigh in with smart, informed ideas that contribute further to the story.
- Give us useful, constructive criticism. Spot a typo or an error? Let us know and we will correct it.
- Demonstrate and share the intelligence, wisdom, and humor we know you possess.
- Ask relevant questions if you have them. These questions should be relevant to the post you are commenting on. If you have other questions that are not relevant to the post and are not a form of solicitation, use the contact form here.
- Don’t be a troll and don’t feed the trolls. The information on this site is meant to help and inform, so please, if you disagree with something here; let’s just agree to disagree and move on. This is not a forum for you to beef or attack anyone, including the writers or the commenters. Downvote and flag the comment instead.
- Inappropriate Language will not be tolerated. If you do not agree with the perspective of the writer, you need to be able to express that disagreement without personal attacks and inappropriate language. Any such comments will be removed, and the commenter will be banned.
Although we can’t be everywhere at once, here are some of the kinds of comments we’re going to do our best to curtail:
- Promoting your own brand, product, or blog. So you’ve got a product that will make a blind man see. Great. If it’s for us, send the info through our contact form. Blasting our viewers is not allowed.
- Impersonating authors or other commenters. We can’t believe we have to say this, but: Don’t do that. It’s weird.
- Comments that make it clear you didn’t read the article. First of all, please read the whole article you are responding to, prior to responding. It could well be that something you think should be brought up, is indeed discussed later in the article. Besides, you know what happens when you ASS-U-ME. If you think there was something we missed or should have brought up, please direct those type of comments to us in the contact form under the topic, Topics we’d like to see. There’s no guarantee you will see them, but we will certainly consider your ideas.
- Comments that are completely out of left field. Sometimes discussions veer off a bit but are still related to the original subject. That is fine. Hijacking the conversation to promote off-topic commentary is not.
- Threats — no matter how vague — against the author or other commenters. Things can get heated, but they shouldn’t be getting heated like that here. The point of this site is to help people, not beat them up with your attitude and words. No posting personal info like addresses, phone numbers. You can only post your own email in relation to a direct request, but it’s not recommended.
- Racism, sexism, homophobia, you get the drift. We all have the right to our opinions, but we don’t always need to express that opinion. Keep it under wraps if it is not something helpful and polite or you will be banned.
- Trolling. If you’re a troll that’s living on the bridge for the hell of it, instead of under it; just hanging out for a good trolling and are not contributing meaningfully to the conversation, we’ll be pushing you back under the bridge.